Condition of women in present time

  There are some issues which constantly pop’s up in my mind.

          We often talk about freedom .Freedom of Nation, freedom of an individual, freedom of every men and women. Oops sorry....

 Are women free?

Does women really exists in society?

      
  Someone would say Yes & someone would say No. Here ,I would like to discuss about both the answers ...

                
   yes, is perhaps right but I’m not generating issues regarding to an individual. So, maybe there is somehow, somewhere, someone who is not free or who is not be able to be free and may be they are marginalized character of society.

            
         But one more thing this is 21st century and somehow they are free too...and they are allowed to be educate and they get a chance to prove their selves. They study in every field as per their interest but there are miles to go and sometimes they face so many problems while achieving success.

          
        This is a modern time we all need to attach ourselves with social sites. To learn something also we need a help of an Internet. But as per some people it is harmful.

         
      say for eg :girls are not allowed to use cellphone or internet connection in cellphones in hostels. So this is an eg.Of hurdle in women's success. Compare to boys ....they have freedom to use cellphones and internet connection.

No one will question about it.

                      
     No one even think about it. And if someone ask a question 'why'? There are chances to get following type of answers,

Girls may become characterless.                                                          She will disobey her parents.

She'll have affair with a guy.

She’ll perhaps download some adult kind of a thing.

She’ll provoke by this kind of thing and willingly she'll loose her virginity.

She'll become a sinner and these kind of a girl will be opium kind of a thing for society. 

          And much more answers one will get. And not only in hostels but if we talk about home you'll get same answers. Ok. it’s fine. But it’s shameful to hear this from an educated person.

Only girls are representatives of our Indian culture  ?

                  
         And while using cellphones boy do not become a bad guy? He will not lose his character? He'll not be a sinner. ? I’m not encouraging anyone towards adultery. I’m just saying openness is needed in this 21st century, in our country and in every individual's mind.

               we all know about risk of technology and literature students might have studied 'Risk society'. it has advantages and disadvantages too, but to get afraid of disadvantages is perhaps not the right way, for these kinds of one especially teenagers needs guidance and knowledge  and this can reduce disadvantages of technology.

Moving ahead,

                           we often give eg. From past, how women used to be and she had contributed in every fields. She was politician, pilot, sports person and what not...but today where she is? No doubt that they have performed very well. And if we talk about today’s life some people will criticize women of 21st century and they will also say that now a days women are adapting western mindsets and their culture. And they believe society is now poisoned with these kind of adaption and it will harm their pureness and piousness. And our culture will die soon by imitating westerns.

They do direct satire on women. So can we ask them what about men.?

Are they not adapting western culture and are they wearing dhoti, kurtas and khadi clothes?

Are they not influenced by western life style?

Only women should be a well-mannered and only she should be well cultured?

         we with a proud talk about our culture norms, virtues, values, traditions and how can I forget honesty. And we can add many more words. But these words are not exist in our civilized country's dictionary. In actual sense we are not talking about this India and in real we are unreal. we all are hypocrites and virtues and honesty is now only bookies words.it is good to accept it and we need a change and we have changed too but we forgot to be natural and we forgot humanity and now we became artificial.

we need to accept reality and we have to stop behaving like literate illiterate.

Why only women should blamed for all these? Women and men both are part of society. And men are also representatives of culture and of our nation.

Now one must think that a men should be well-mannered or not?

Respect:

        we should respect every human beings. 

Are we doing it really?

 Worshipping Goddesses does it proves that we all are respecting each and every women?

 Yes, may be some of us are doing it so, but what about others, and if we talk about our religion and if we refer to past actions then.?

Mahabharata, Ramayana  we can take women characters from these now say,

what happened to sita ?

what about droupadi and  kunta? Kunta had to leave her child because of fear. Fear of society. Fear of being insulated and fear of disrespect which she'll get from the society.

Karma & deeds:

 Talking about karma and deeds we believe that,

'Saat janma nu punya etle ghare ek dikri no janma'

 And if we are religious, moral and educated, Then why  we do  fetus killing of a child ? And if we do this then can't we call it bad deeds or a sin? And while killing a child can't we say that we have done bad deeds for next seven janma.?

   
        Here I intentionally used word child instead of using a word girl child. If we believe in God then we must think that doctors are not God.  While doing sex determination there are chances to misunderstanding or he may have mistaken and may be child is boy and he felt as a girl. It is said that 'manas matra bhul ne patra'

not intentionally but it can happen like this too or if doctor intentionally do then who knows,   we are not doctors. And sex determination is crime and if doctors are doing it for the sake of money and people are doing it because they don't need a girl child. 

              Then can anyone say that at that time our culture, values and morality had went on a walk or what? Unfortunately mother herself has been a part of this crime. She does this willingly or by force we don't know but if she forced to do then she is also killed with her child. And if she do it happily then she is a criminal.

If we have faith in God then why don't we think that god had sent or he planned to send girl child in womb of mother and he wants her to be a part of your family.

 And killing is not a sin?

        If we believe in concept of heaven & hell then he or she can't not go to hell?  And one thing is clear that if you don’t want a girl child then stop worshipping Goddesses because while doing this kind of sin you are not disrespecting only girl but goddesses too.

People use sentence like:

'Har aangan ki shobha nari'   and really she has just been a showpiece and people love to showcase her. She is a showpiece of house's corner. Let her free and let her feel actual freedom.

Moving further. ..

               
           We all have already become rapist of our mother land so there is no need to rape a woman. And when this type of activity takes place why do we judge only girl?

           If we say that she is wearing short clothes  but why don't we  look at ourselves first? She has only shorten up her clothes while we  have shorten up our mind. She is not provoking but that person has ill-intentioned. May b there are some girls like that but we can't ignore others. If we think of 3,4 or 5 years old girls what is her fault?

          
         Is she provoking men's senses? And home is world's secured place and family is world's best haven and family members are guard   unfortunately physical harassment took place in home and guards becomes devils. And secure and safe place becomes hell .If one is not able to control his instinct then that is not fault of a girl and he has no right to spoil girl's life. Each and every one should think about it not only men but women should also think about it. And we have to accept that some girls are also on wrong track. We never know and I’m not here to take anyone's side but some judgments are not worth. And in rape cases victim should not judge alone and society should not disrespect her.  Help her and give her atmosphere to restart her life with a positive energy.

Don't cage her.

Don't rape her again by staring at her.

'She is victim not a culprit. '

Marriages: Indian marriages are wonderful and it has interesting tradition.

Here people likes to do arrange marriages ....sorry correction like or dislike it is different thing but let’s keep here that they do traditional arrange marriages. Boy's family chooses girl for his son to marry. she dress up herself very beautifully and she comes to meet boy's family. Here her role is to look beautiful like a showpiece and her family also want her to look beautiful and perfect ....like a thing how can they forget that she is human and she is not a thing or a statue to keep  anywhere or to sell and why don't they think   that it  is her life too. There are some exceptional cases of love marriages but right now let’s come to the point girl will not object in what her family decides and she says yes, in some pressure, in fear or happily we can't give appropriate answer of it. After getting married she goes to her husband's house and she lives there but if she is  in trouble and  not happy with marriage life and she goes to her parent’s home and after telling everything she might have get answers like: we are social animals and we live in society ,if you'll stay with us how can we face society what will they say ?

'dikri to sasrej shobhe'

can we ask some questions to those parents. ...?

where is you love & care  for your daughter?

 Society is important  and  matters a lot then your angle?

 And if that couples decides to separate or to get divorce, at that time not only society but family members will also criticize   women. And if she thinks of new chapter of her life or she thinks or do remarriage then also she will be the one who will consider as characterless or a sinner.

And if a women marries twice or thrice then society will have issues and lot's of problems but

what if a man do the same..?

she is an individual and she has right to begin new life.

Government has conducted many laws in favour of women everyone needs to be aware of it.

Don't tolerate inhuman behavior and rural areas needs awareness.

 If we are human then let's be human.

In this 21st century many things have changed and we allowed to think and write our own point of views. which is good. But only writing is not enough it should read and reading is not enough try to have your own views and your own thinking and thinking is not enough apply it in to your life to make it better.

'Free without freedom is useless' women are already empowered they don't need just label of empowerment. If you really want to do something then support them rather than being thorns of their way.

Don't cage her or don't tie them with a rope or with a chain. we  are proud to be women.

there are the things which women expects from family & society both. She is part of society,

she is no longer 'paron ki jutie'.